Posted on October 10, 2008
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Feel the fear and do it anyway.
- Susan Jeffers
So we have spent the week addressing fear, the causes of fear, how perfectionism can cause fear, but now that we know all these things, what are we going to do with it? I tell you what I am going to do. I am going to “feel the fear and do it anyway!” Will you join me? Acknowledge your fear, accept your fear, and then move forward anyway. You will be amazed at all your successes!
Doing it anyway,
Patty Benton
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Posted on October 9, 2008
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Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism. Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make you a far happier and more productive person.
- Dr. David M. Burns
How many of us allow our fear of doing something wrong hold us back? I believe at times we put much higher expectations on ourselves than anyone else. We are harder on ourselves and expect more of ourselves than we do anyone else. I know at times when I have messed up, I have just beat myself up about it, until I was sick in my stomach. Truthfully, 90% of the time, people either don’t notice or don’t care if we aren’t perfect. In fact, it is a relief to others to see you as human!
So the next time you don’t do something because you are afraid of not doing it “right” or “perfect” suck it up and as Nike says, JUST DO IT! You may just be pleasantly surprised.
Just Doing It!,
Patty Benton
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Posted on October 8, 2008
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Fear is the tax that conscience pays to guilt.
- George Sewell
I loved this quote because the majority of us hate having to pay taxes, yet when you think about it, we could do have to pay taxes for our guilt. We are afraid that our guilt will come out in another way, or that if we fail, we will be guilty of letting down others.
How many of you have let your feelings of guilt drive you not to do something “risky” in your life or business? Were you afraid of the outcome? If it isn’t illegal or will kill you, why do you let that tax overcome you doing something?
When I had my daughter, I didn’t want to go back to work. Yet, I was afraid if I didn’t, I would fail my family, therefore, placing the guilt of that failure on my mind. Luckily, I am of the Courageous descent (see yesterday’s post), and I took the plunge anyway. I am not saying it was always easy, that I was never afraid, or I never felt guilty. Our first Christmas we had no money to buy a tree or gifts. There was huge guilt on my part for that. But, I got over it, realizing the gift I gave to my daughter by being home, was worth so much more than giving her tangible gifts, but not being there for her day in and day out.
Your turn - What fear have you allowed to take over your conscience? Did you act on it or did you ignore it? What was the result?
Patty Benton
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Posted on October 6, 2008
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Last week we talked about change, and havingthe flexibility to change. This week I would like to shift our Quote Topic to Fears. Many of us are afraid of change, and we allow our fears to keep us from instituting change. So let’s spend this week discussing fears and overcoming them. This will lead into next weeks Quote Topic of Dreams.
A timid person is frightened before a danger, a coward during the time, and a courageous person afterward.
- Jean Paul Richter
Let’s break these down into how these three types of people work in the business world.
Timid - This person will more than likely never become a business owner. I just can’t see how they would be able to take the first steps in establishing a business, such as figuring out what their talents are, how to turn their talents into a business, how to get their business out there and market it, etc… I envision this person a someone who dreams of a business idea, but never actually steps out and puts it into place.
Coward - This person is a little harder to identify. I envision them as someone who takes the steps to open their business, but is too afraid to let go of the reigns and let the business go down the path it is meant to. They may be afraid of growth, expanding their business model, success, failure, etc. This fear holds them back. Maybe they don’t quit their day job. Or they don’t take the large client that would mean bringing on new clients…
Courageous - This person goes for it. They may not even take time to analyze the risks when something pops up. They are continually following a new path, expanding their business model, quitting their job to work full-time on their business (even though they don’t have any clients or even a website). Don’t get me wrong, these people are not dumb and reckless, as I envision them making long range plans, and not turning down a path that doesn’t seem right. They are just the ones who “feel” it in their gut, or do a brief analysis, and they go for it.
Be truthful with yourself. Which of these are you? My guess would be if you are here, then you are either the Coward or the Courageous. Please don’t take any of these as negatives, because truthfully, we need to have some of each to have a functioning society. The Cowards would be great partners for the Courageous, because they could reign them in a little. The Courageous on the other hand, would drag the Coward along.
I personally think I fall into the Courageous. I am a doer. I get an idea, and I go in feet first. When my head actually gets to the idea, sometimes it is mad at the feet for not consulting it first. I love my business, the winding and different paths that it has taken, and I look forward to all the new paths in my future :)
Your turn - Which one are you? Once you address this question, we can move onto addressing your fears, as it will be different for each “type” of person.
Until tomorrow,
Courageous at Heart (and Feet)
Patty Benton
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Posted on October 3, 2008
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“Nothing endures but change.”
- Heraclitus
I think that once we truly accept this statement as a fact, we can begin to enjoy the changes that come into our lives. We no longer have to fear what changes will come tomorrow, but as we discussed this week, we can embrace those changes, and use them to our benefit to grow in new ways, and have wonderful new experiences!
Share with us how you plan to embrace changes in the future.
I plan to embrace changes in the future by meeting them head-on and instead of whining about them (yes, I do whine!), analyzing the changes to see how they can make me better, stronger, and even more successful.
Changing for the better,
Patty Benton
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